Saturday, February 28, 2009
Hikikomori people shut themselves in their houses or rooms, but typical Hikikomori people aren't contented with their lives. They desire to participate in society but can't do so for some mental reason.
They are in trouble and blame themselves for not working or going to school. The most typical criticism of Hikikomori people is Hikiomori behavior is amae. But such criticism is beside the point.
Amae (Wikipedia)
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Another typical criticism of Hikikomori people is Hatarakazaru mono kuu bekarazu (If you don't work, you don't eat). But many professionals say such kind of criticism have the contrary effect on overcoming Hikikomori. They blame themselves for not working over and over again.
Some people press Hikikomori people for working on the grounds of the fact that they will not be able to live when their parents, supporters of Hikikomori people, will pass away. But similarly, I think such kind of pressure is ineffective.
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It's difficult to understand psychology of Hikikomori people. So, many people, including parents of Hikikomori people, misunderstand Hikikomori people and have the wrong attitude toward them. The most unfortunate result is murder. Japanese media sometimes reports murder between Hikikomori people and their parents.
On the other hand, reading writings on Hikikomori, I've been surprised that many professionals understand what Hikikomori people think and feel.
Parents of Hikikomori people don't always understand psychology of Hikikomori. But professionals who are unrelated to Hikikomori people understand it. It's odd for me.
They are in trouble and blame themselves for not working or going to school. The most typical criticism of Hikikomori people is Hikiomori behavior is amae. But such criticism is beside the point.
Amae (Wikipedia)
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Another typical criticism of Hikikomori people is Hatarakazaru mono kuu bekarazu (If you don't work, you don't eat). But many professionals say such kind of criticism have the contrary effect on overcoming Hikikomori. They blame themselves for not working over and over again.
Some people press Hikikomori people for working on the grounds of the fact that they will not be able to live when their parents, supporters of Hikikomori people, will pass away. But similarly, I think such kind of pressure is ineffective.
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It's difficult to understand psychology of Hikikomori people. So, many people, including parents of Hikikomori people, misunderstand Hikikomori people and have the wrong attitude toward them. The most unfortunate result is murder. Japanese media sometimes reports murder between Hikikomori people and their parents.
On the other hand, reading writings on Hikikomori, I've been surprised that many professionals understand what Hikikomori people think and feel.
Parents of Hikikomori people don't always understand psychology of Hikikomori. But professionals who are unrelated to Hikikomori people understand it. It's odd for me.
